Friday, May 4, 2012

On Being Real

I am linking up with Gypsy Mama for 5 Minute Friday, where you write for 5 minutes, no editing, no over-thinking, you just write! What you get is what you get!

Theme: Real


I want to be real. As  a pastor's wife I often feel as if there are lists of expectations that people have for me, mainly, to be perfect. I am supposed to be a perfect mom, a perfect wife, a perfect housekeeper, an incredible cook, and shower every day. Oh, and I should homeschool all my children too.

The truth is, I am not perfect, sometimes I am not even average, I am

I don't thrive being a stay-at-home mom. I am not a good housekeeper, I don't enjoy cooking, I am allergic to cleaning, and having my children with me all day long would drive me crazy! I need time for myself.

In all the ways of the heart, I am not perfect either. I might be a pastor's wife, but I fail and sin just as much as anyone else. Who knows, maybe even more! I don't have it all together and I really don't want anyone to think that either.

I am a broken woman with an incredible God that continues to gently guide me. There are no pretenses with Him. I can come, just as I am, completely broken and know that I am fully accepted, completely loved, and deeply cherished.

I love that about Him.



  1. I feel the same way xx I particularly liked "The truth is, I am not perfect, sometimes I am not even average, I am" :)

  2. Just be someone who loves others...most of them will give you a break for not being perfect if they know you love them!!! Keep wrestling it out... God is with you.

    Visiting from FMF

  3. God is using your honesty, Ellen. xo

  4. and we love you because you are just "you"

    hugs :)

  5. I love this! We are all with sin, and fall short of the glory of God. Whoever fails to admit this is lying. :( How beautiful of you to write such a thing though, since most people do think of pastor's wife's as without sin and perfect. What a great blog entry from the perspective of a pastor's wife. :)

  6. I think I laugh at myself almost every day that I am a stay at home mom, because I feel like the most undomesticated person ever. I homeschool my kids. Some days they do drive me crazy lol, but I love doing it.

  7. I am so glad that the image of that "typical pastor's wife" seems to be diminishing somewhat. You know who I'm talking about - the one who plays the piano, teaches Sunday School, leads the women's ministry, prays beautifully, has all the answers, brings meals to anyone who needs them, and has perfectly behaved and dressed children. I truly believe my church (and I'm sure yours too) appreciates a woman who is honest, down to earth and relatable. We do better work for the Lord when we are simply ourselves - the way He created us to be! :)


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