Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Cerebral Palsy - And Adoption Story

“I hope to adopt someday."

The sentiment was real, yet my idea of adoption was romanticized and I lacked a real understanding of adoption.  I pictured bringing a shy, malnourished, lonely child to my home who would transform into a healthy and happy little person because of the love of our family.

I must confess that when we adopted a child with cerebral palsy I also had unrealistic expectations of the changes we would see in her mobility. I mistakenly thought that she would be taking independent steps as soon as six months after bringing her home due to weekly physical therapy, stretching, and the love of our family. I saw other kids that had been adopted accomplish such things, and surely, our daughter would too.

What I did not understand about adoption, and more specifically, the adoption of a child with special needs, was that we were dealing with more than the emotional aspect of a neglected child, we were also dealing with a disability that we had never lived with before, and the disability was hard. We stepped into a world of wheelchairs, MRIs, therapy, and countless doctor appointments. We thought we were ready, that it would be easy since we had a biological daughter with Down syndrome, yet, we felt challenged and stretched and often times wondered if we had made a mistake. 

To continue reading CLICK HERE. My article is published at specialneeds.com


  1. Hi, Ellen, I have been following your blog for some time and enjoy reading your articles an dposts. I am wondering... how have you felt adopting a child has affected your biological children. I am wondering if the surgeries and the doctor visits, and the nights away from them in the hospital makes them (or you, perhaps) ever resent the adopted child. As we navigate our own journey to adoption of a special needs child I often wonder if my own children will feel that we have pushed them aside to focus so much of our attention on this new person that we chose to bring into our home. We are choosing the burden that may separate us from them from time to time, may cause us to miss baseball games and talent shows because of surgeries or illness. What do you think? You can email me privately if you would like. olivia dot demkowicz at yahoo dot com

    1. Olivia, I will e-mail you but maybe I will work on a post about this as well. Excellent, excellent question!

  2. Ellen, I have been following your blog for some time now, but have never commented. What caught my attention were the posts about your daughter with Downs. One of my granddaughters has Downs and what a joy she is to our family.

    I blog at A House and Yard - www.ahouseandyard.com.

    I am writing because I want to nominate you for the Illuminating Blogger Award. If you want to participate, go to http://foodstoriesblog.com/illuminating-blogger-award/ and follow the directions.

    Even if you choose not to participate, mostly I wanted you to know I appreciate your posts.

    Blessings on you and your sweet family!

    1. Thanks Calista! I will definitely check your blog and thanks so much for the award!

  3. What a great post once again!:))


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