Thursday, April 11, 2013

When blogging blew me away

I began to blog because I am a writer, and writers write. But I also blogged because I wanted to connect with other parents that walked the same journey I walk.

Through this blog, I began to share about life with a baby with Down syndrome. After a while, I began to receive emails from other women who were struggling with a new or a prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome. Somehow, it seemed, my words touched their heart and they needed someone to talk to. I prayed for each one of these women, and soon I recognized I was part of a greater story where I only had a small part to play. But however small, I considered it to be an honor and a “high calling” so I continued to write.

When our “special needs” family expanded by adopting a child with cerebral palsy, I began to write about adoption. Mainly, I was writing about the emotions of adoption, because I wanted to be honest and real about the process. Adoption was hard. I wish someone had reached out to me and affirmed that my emotions were normal.

I write because I want to offer hope, courage, and community to those reading my words.

I write because I don’t want the hurting, struggling, or broken to think that they are alone in this journey of life.

And I write honestly, because if I only tell you what makes me sound good, perfect, or like a worthy pastor’s wife, then I have cheated you in some way. If I tell you that adoption is hard, but I don’t tell you that it took me more than a year to feel any love for my child, I have alienated you if you too are an adopting parent struggling with love. If I tell you that I struggle with anxiety, but I don’t tell you that almost a year ago I had to ask for help, then I have made you feel lonely in your own struggles thinking nobody will understand or that you are “worse off” than the rest. If I tell you that being a parent is a joy, but I don’t tell you that at times I feel like a failure as a mother because of my media addiction, then I am not allowing a level of accountability or honesty to enter into my life, and maybe yours too.

Last week, I wrote about special needs parents feeling invisible. I wanted to affirm them that they are not alone, and that I see them. You can read that post HERE.


That is where blogging blew me away.

In a week, that post has been shared more than 10,000 times on Facebook through my blog and through Not Alone.

And I want to say thank you! Thank you to all of you who shared that post.

Mainly, I am simply humbled that my words were able to encourage so many special needs parents. Because I do, I see you!


  1. Ellen, before you know it, that post will have been shared 100,000 times! It really was a beautiful piece. The minute I read it, I felt that you were seeing me. Bravo on 10,000 shares!

  2. Anonymous7:12 AM

    Thank YOU Ellen for saying the words that so many parents of kids with SN are desperate to hear-that someone sees their struggles, that they really aren't alone. I work with many parents and would never tell them that raising a child with SN is easier than raising a typical kid. There is so much more involved, so much more stress on the family. Your post was a great affirmation and also an opportunity to share to let our friends with typical kids get a glimpse of our lives. I'm so thankful for the social media outlets our parents have these days-that they can share, cyber-hug and celebrate our unique lives. Again-thank you for such a beautiful post!

  3. It really was a beautiful piece. I really enjoy reading your blog. You seem to be able to say exactly what I'm feeling.

  4. That post (and all of them) was absolutely beautiful! I see so many wonderful, strong people that I overlooked before. It is nice to know we aren't alone in this!

  5. That is amazing that you were able to touch so many people, congratulations!


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