Editor's Note: This is a guest post from Caroline
McGraw, featuring an excerpt from her book, Love's Subversive Stance: Ground
Yourself and Grow in Relationship.
When
I
was
a
little
girl,
I
don’t remember
having
a
firm
concept
of
God,
specifically.
Yet
I
do
remember
having
a
very
clear
idea
of
what
heaven
would
be
like.
I
believed
that
heaven
would
be
just
this:
a
place
where
I
could
talk
freely
with
my
brother Willie.
It
would
be
a
place
without
the
limits
of
autism
on
his
part
or
lack
of
knowledge
on
mine,
a
place
where
I
could
ask
him
a
question
and
receive
a
complete
answer.
I
remember
wanting
to
ask
him
about
the
details
of
our
life;
I
wanted
to
know
if
Cheerios
were
really
his
favorite
cereal
or
if
he
ate
them
simply
because
that’s what
Mom
bought.
I
wanted
then
what
I
want
now:
a
window
into
his
mind
and
heart.
Yet
maybe,
just
maybe,
I
can
only
see
in
part
because
to
see
fully
would
be
too
much
beauty
to
bear.
For
me,
heeding
this
wisdom
means
that,
even
as
I
hope
for
heaven,
I
look
for
those
sudden
windows
into
my
brother’s mind
and
heart
now.
I
remember
a
time
one
such
‘window’
opened:
during
the
long-ago
era
when
my
brother
was
obsessed
with
Snow
White
and
the
Seven
Dwarves.
He
had
(still
has)
all
seven
stuffed
dwarves,
and
he
loved
to
line
them
up.
He
referred
to
himself
as
‘Grumpy’
or
‘Happy’
depending
on
his
mood.
I
realize
now
that
the
film
was
probably
an
excellent
way
for
him
to
learn
about
identifying
emotion,
since
each
dwarf
is
typecast
and
consistent
in
facial
expression
throughout
the
story.
One
day,
my
parents
asked
him,
“Willie,
if
you’re Happy,
who
is
Mommy?”
For
reasons
inexplicable,
Willie
replied,
“Mommy
is
Bashful!”
Mommy
is
not
bashful.
However,
Bashful
is
a
thoughtful,
kind
dwarf,
so
perhaps
these
qualities
were
behind
his
choice.
My
mom
then
asked,
“And
who
is
Daddy?”
Willie
said,
“Daddy
is
Doc!”
This
choice
seems
a
bit
more
logical.
My
father
wears
glasses
and
has
a
calm,
direct
way
of
expressing
himself.
He
has
a
quirky
sense
of
humor,
and
he’s a natural
leader.
Finally,
my
mom
asked,
“And
who
is
your
sister
Caroline?”
With
no
hesitation,
Willie
said,
“Caroline
is
Snow
White!”
So
there
you
have
it.
To
my
brother,
I
am
a
Disney
princess.
He
may
not
be
able
to
say
things
like,
“Caroline,
I
look
up
to
you,”
or,
“Caroline,
I’m glad
you’re my sister,”
but
he
can
cast
me
in
a
starring
role
in
the
movie
of
his
mind.
I
may
not
be
able
to
see
all
I’d like
to
see
of
my
brother’s mind
and
heart,
but
what
I
can
see
is
astonishing.
He’s creative,
and
hilarious,
and
generous
with
his
casting.
***
Caroline
McGraw
is
a
would-be
childhood
paleontologist
who
digs
for
treasure
in
people
with
disabilities,
and
empowers
caregivers
to
do
the
same. Her free
digital book,
Your
Creed
of Care: How to Dig for Treasure in People (Without Getting Buried Alive) is available at A Wish Come Clear.
What an awesome guest-post!! I'm looking forward to reading that book!
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Thank you so much, LBD! I appreciate the affirmation, and hope you enjoy the book!
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