Showing posts with label Nichole. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Nichole. Show all posts

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Transitioning to Kindergarten

1 What are your thoughts?
It feels as if the baby years are officially behind for my rascal. My "baby" will be transitioning into Kindergarten, and already we are celebrating some of the transitions, while trying to hold on a little bit longer in other ways. Yet, can we really hold on?


Preschool years are now behind us. This last year, Nichole had the most incredible teachers. She was in an inclusive classroom, with a regular teacher and a special education teacher. Her special ed teacher was...fantastic! She believed in Nichole, she saw her potential, and she loved her. She went above and beyond and was able to look at things from my perspective - the parent's perspective.

I received a note from her teacher and her aide, both of them expressing what a treat it was to have Nichole. They believed in her potential and really loved her. We were blessed to have them be a part of Nichole's life.

Nichole  is now attending summer school getting ready for Kindergarten. She loves it, and she really likes her teacher, so I feel like we will have a successful year. it also helps that her teacher is my friend and she knows my concerns with Nichole so well.

Another new development is that Nichole was recently diagnosed with speech Apraxia. While I wish I had pushed for this sooner, now we have pretty "tried and true" resources to work on her speech. It might sound crazy, but already I feel she is doing better.

And a celebration, we are done with pull-ups! One day we ran out of pull-ups and I got her in underwear. She was fine all day. She is a rascal, she had us, she conned us for who knows how long. So we are done! It is so nice not to worry about this anymore, and perfect to have her potty trained before starting Kindergarten. She finished preschool with big girl undies, and so far, no accidents at school!

Friday, April 5, 2013

Recovery after surgery...

1 What are your thoughts?
For the last 5 years of her life, Nichole is on a mission to surprise us and challenge any expectations even we - her parents - have of her. This surgery was no different.





First of all, the plan was for Nichole to get ear tubes, at least for one of her ears as there was fluid there. However, when they went in, her ears had no fluid, although the doctor did mention one of her ear drums looked peculiar. Not sure what that means, but I am sure we will talk about it later. In 3 weeks we go back for a check-up and a hearing test.

Recovery was hard. How do you help with pain when your child refuses to take oral medication? I think the chemistry of Tylenol did not feel good going down her throat. She spit most of it out, refused to take it, so I think she was not getting enough relief from her pain. We could get her to drink a little bit, and eat a little bit, but it was hard.

And this is where I discovered that I don't handle my kids in pain well at all. It was hard with Nina, but with Nichole, my feeling of helplessness was even greater. While Nichole cried refusing to take her meds, I was crying too,begging her to take them, yelling in desperation "Nichole, please, take you medicine sweetheart, you have to take it!", and of course making the sisters cry too.

So I got suppositories.

Oh how I love suppositories! Nichole did not mind them that much either. No more crying to get meds, it was so easy and fast she really didn't have a chance to fight it. I tried to avoid it, I mean, who wants to use suppositories? But after that she began perking up and this girl likes to eat noodles and eggs, and drink her juice! So that is what she had for about a week.

Same day we started the suppositories, she started asking for chicken and french fries. Yes, my kid is a McDonald's junkie, and for some reason this was exactly what she wanted to eat. She kept bringing me her coat and shoes and asking to go get them. She is not a fan of a soft diet, and the poor girl has sensory processing issues, so textures are a big thing. That is why we only ate noodles and eggs. Those are okay.

We considered sending her to school today, but she wanted to stay. Next week we are back to normal. praise God!

Oh, and since she is all better now, guess what treat I got her. Asi es! A Happy Meal! 





Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Update on Nichole's Surgery

1 What are your thoughts?
This morning, we arrived at 6:15 am at Children's Hospital for Nichole's tonsillectomy, adenoidectomy, and possible ear tubes. It was an early morning, but Nichole was happy as we got out of the car. I kept thinking, she has no idea what is about to happen!

We talked about the surgery with Nichole. We do think she understood it to some extent, and she was mildly cooperative in the morning. That is, until they had her take her pajamas off and put on the hospital gown. I can't figure out how to paste video from my phone here, so check out this linkhttps://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151797109752802 on my Facebook page. It was pretty cute, and you get a pretty good sense of Nichole's communication skills.

Nichole gets pretty worked up with doctors and getting her vitals checked. At first, we thought she would loose it, but she pulled it together.

Here she is, resigned to wear her scrubs and right before surgery.



She is a daddy's little girls, and was happy having daddy with her. Although she did not like daddy getting scrubs on either.
 

And here they go, ready for surgery and Nichole is waving good-bye. At this point, she really had no idea that when she saw me again, she would be in pain.
 


They called us to recovery, and Nichole was already sitting on the bed. Wobbly from anesthesia, a wonderful nurse helping her. She was whimpering, mainly when she saw she had an IV. She knew there was something different in her mouth, but when I asked if it hurt she said no, and pointed at the IV to come out.


 We hung out at the recovery room for a while. Nichole settled down and was watching Strawberry Shortcake, and later on Curious George. The beauty of technology! They told us that technology works better helping kids with pain and anxiety even compared to drugs. I will have to agree.

After a while, they took us to our room and Nichole nestled with daddy.


 And then when the nurse said she could put her Frog jammies back on, she was one happy girl!


We are waiting. The plan is for us to spend the night. It is a precaution that most hospitals take with kids who have Down syndrome or other special needs to make sure that they are okay going home with oxygen levels, or any complications that might arise.

When Nina had her surgery, due to her oxygen levels we ended up staying there for 2 nights.

How is Nichole doing? So much better than we expected! She is drinking, without us pushing it, she wants to. And eating? She ate an entire plate of noodles, and she was asking for more food as Andy and I were eating.

She is amazing!

The main thing right now, is handling her pain. Which so far we have kept on top of it.

What a trooper we have!

Thank you so much for all of you praying for my sweet girl. We appreciate those prayers more than you know!

Friday, March 22, 2013

Tonsils, Adenoids and Ear Tubes...Oh My!

6 What are your thoughts?
On Tuesday, our little rascal is getting her tonsils and adenoids out. And if they see fluid behind one of her ears, an ear tube is going in. This mama is not so excited about surgery...


She is just not a good patient. When Nichole is sick, or is not feeling good...watch out!

This is also her very first surgery. She has never had anesthesia. But she has been a hospital patient, and she didn't like it!

It probably doesn't help that our last experience with this surgery was tough. Nina had been home with us for only 4 months when she had this surgery, and it set us back in our bonding/attachment. Not to mention our relationship. Then, after 7 days, she started bleeding, and she was airlifted to Mayo clinic.

I know, I know, this is very rare, but we had "that" complication once already, and I am not looking forward to surgery and recovery.

And I feel bad for my rascal too, because I know there will be pain.

This is my one hope: she loves ice-cream, she can have as much sherbert as she wants where I am concerned, and hopefully she will be drinking.

Keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I will try to update as soon as I can.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Who I Am: Down Syndrome Style

2 What are your thoughts?
I might have Down syndrome, but I am still a person with unique gifts and abilities. I am Who I Am, and God made me exactly who He wanted me to be.

 I am full of joy...



I am daddy's little girl through and through...


I am a friend...



I am valued...



I am inquisitive...



I am a loving sister...



I am a music lover and performer...



 I am cherished...



 I am enjoying life to the fullest...



I am flying high, full of potential...



Sometimes, I am a clown, I like to make people laugh...



I am polite and well behaved...



 I am someone with feelings, just like you...



I am capable of learning...



I am a student...
 


I am ready to join in the fun with my sisters...
 


I am wanted...



I am ticklish...



 I am beautiful...



I am an inspiration...



 I am important...



I am a rascal...



I am someone who has been changing lives since the day I was born...



I am deeply loved...



I am my mommy's dream...



I am ME!


Thanks you International Down Syndrome Coalition (IDSC) for celebrating and valuing our children, and sharing with others who they are!

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Down syndrome {on her 5th birthday}

1 What are your thoughts?
It seems unbelievable that five years ago Down syndrome entered our world when Nichole was born. That day replays in my mind every year on her birthday, fresh as if it has been not too long ago. It is no cliche, but rather a truth when people say, "kids grow up too quick" and "time goes by so fast." I was so scared.

If only I could redo that day, when I saw my baby come out of m, her back side displaying her thick neck confirming that she in fact had Down syndrome. As if in slow motion, I saw her naked back side coming to me, ready to rest on my chest. Down syndrome about to be handed to me, not my baby, but a condition. I wish I knew then what I know now.

This little girl has come to steal my heart. She has given me purpose, passion, and direction. She changed my life. This child of God entrusted to us is a gift. Yes, there is something about Nichole, something that touches my heart and spirit in ways nobody else can.

Her celebration of life touches my heart and makes me wish I celebrated with the same gusto she does. I wish I could feel the joy she feels, and I wish I could love unconditionally the way she does.

Nichole spent her birthday sick. And although she had a rough day, being sick, with a fever, and congested sinuses (not to mention the worse attendee at her own party). She still managed to expand my heart, and make me fall in love even more.

As we had lunch together she announced, "I help you" and she stirred the eggs. She also told me several times, while pointing at her head, "I sick." Because she loves the attention of her dismay.

She is my angel, and she holds my heart. I am who I am today in a large part because of her. her influence is making a mark, and her contribution to her mom, her family, and those that know her is already significant. This little girl is in the business of changing lives, and I have the honor to be her mother.

I live you rascal, with every ounce of my being!


Friday, June 8, 2012

Expectations

12 What are your thoughts?
I am linking up with Gypsy Mama for 5 Minute Friday, where you write for 5 minutes, no editing, no over-thinking, you just write! What you get is what you get!


Theme: Expectation
 
 
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I used to think I knew about unconditional love the moment I became a mother. My precious baby stole my heart and there was nothing that could ever make me stop loving her. I thought I knew what love felt, and I even thought I finally could understand God’s love for me.

The birth of my second daughter, however, challenged my idea of “unconditional love” and showed me how little I understood God’s love for me. My new baby, Nichole, born with Down syndrome, did not meet any of my expectations. I wondered then if my love for my first child had come so easily because she had indeed met every expectation I could have had for her.

I saw Nichole as broken and I struggled to love her. I quickly came to realize that I was the broken one, and it was really God’s love the only love I knew that was completely unconditional. Amazing how God has used my own daughter, a little girl with Down syndrome, to teach me and show me what unconditional love really looks and feels like.

It is not about expectations, it never should have been. It has always been about love.

Stop
 
 

Thursday, May 24, 2012

I Need Her

4 What are your thoughts?
It is 2:00 am when the cell phone vibrates under my pillow reminding me to get up. In a swift motion I swing my legs around and glide out of bed, barely moving the covers. My husband sleeps soundly and so does my one-week-old baby, Nichole, who sleeps propped up in her car seat in our room. I pause at the door and stare at her small shadow. Slowly I turn and exit the room, closing the bedroom door behind me. It is time.

Across the hall from my room, I lock myself in the bathroom. I sit on the cold tile floor and pull the blue Medela breast pump from under the sink. The bottles, cups, and tubes are ready, waiting for me. I am full of milk and ready to relieve some of the pressure.

I plug myself to the milking machine, the rhythmic swishing begins, and within seconds, the floodgates are open. A steady stream that never fails every time I am attached to the pump. 

Why? Why?

Why!!!

Why does it have to be my baby? Why do I have to be the mother of a child with Down syndrome? Why!

It never fails. Every time the pump is to my breast I cry and grieve over Nichole's diagnosis. During the day, I have enough distractions to keep me from giving in and losing myself in despair. But at night, at night I can cry as much as I want. Everyone is sleeping. Nobody knows.

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My article I Need Her was published today at SpecialNeeds.com. CLICK HERE to continue reading.


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Sunday, May 20, 2012

Copycat

5 What are your thoughts?
On Friday, we had some friends from St. Louis stop by and spend the night with us. We met because of our girls and their diagnosis of Down syndrome. The extra chromosome has brought along beautiful friendships!

Nichole loves her sister Ellie, whatever Ellie does, so does Nichole. She likes her sister, she plays with her sister. At school though, she does not really play with many of the other kids, but when Nichole saw Braska, she decided Braska was so cool she would copy her too. Nichole was a hoot. Everything Braska did, Nichole would do too. Braska's speech is incredible, I don't really know any other kid with Down syndrome that talks as well as Braska. The sweet thing is that Nichole was repeating every word Braska said, maybe not clearly, but she was trying hard! Did Nichole recognize that Braska has Down syndrome too? I don't know.

Here is a little video of Braska being a cheerleader and Nichole is being a copycat. Pay close attention to Braska's facial expressions and mannerisms, because you will see Nichole doing whatever Braska does. Besides you also get to see 2 adorable little girls!


Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Ramblings of a Mother

1 What are your thoughts?
 
Nichole is into self-directed feedings. It means she tells me what and when she wants to eat and I willingly oblige. Some might say this is a bad idea when it comes to parenting, but most of the time her wish is my command. While this might eventually be a disaster, she is communicating with us so clearly that it is hard to refuse. 

“Bre? Tella? Mommy peez?”

You want some bread with Nutella? Sure thing little rascal!

Which brings me to the fact that this girl loves her Nutella as much as I do. I think the choice of snack is considered scientific evidence that she got the extra chromosome from me. I will also argue that she looks a lot like her mama, especially when she is angry.  

Her love for Nutella has been discovered in the classroom. Often times teachers apologize for the Nutella smudges on her shirt. Fine with me, I have no problem licking her shirt clean. Okay, I don’t love Nutella that much.

Which brings me to school. Nichole is doing really well…most of the time. Nichole is in a special education classroom. It means that all the kids in her class have special needs. Her teachers have discovered that Nichole does not thrive in this environment. For example, Nichole does not handle screaming and loud very well (unless she is the one screaming and being loud). One of the therapists told us she can judge how the day is going by Nichole’s reaction. If Nichole runs to her  and asks to “play” it means it has been a rough day with the other kids and she wants out of there. If she is happy and smiling, it means it has been smooth sailing and all kids have been cooperating.

Which brings me to next year plans. We are having an IEP meeting but we know for sure Nichole will be moved to a typical classroom.  Nichole needs the example from her typical peers and she needs to learn the ropes of school as we prepare for Kindergarten. As a mom, it is exciting when teachers see the potential in your child that you see. It is also reassuring to hear them say she can do this, she can be with typical peers and thrive in that environment (although safety is a concern with her, remember, she is a professional rascal even at her young age).

Which brings me back to the fact that she makes me proud every day. She is talking more, she is engaging more, and she is enjoying life.

I am head over heels in love with this girl.

What is it Nichole? You want some crackers? Sure thing little rascal!


Thursday, March 29, 2012

A Picture Tells a Story

5 What are your thoughts?
Andi at Bringing the Sunshine shared 5 pictures from this year, "What My Eyes See...and What Photos Don't Show." I found her blog because she has a daughter with Cerebral Palsy and a son with Down syndrome. Once I visited her blog, I was there to stay. Her reflective post today made me think about the sweet moments this year I have had with my girls. I want to share those with you too.

Orphan no more
Orphan no more: I recently wrote an article on adoption where I revisited the first time I went into Nina's room. Revisiting the reality of what her life used to be like as an orphan broke my heart once more. This little girl is not the same child I met 2 years ago. A blank stare in her eyes has been replace by a sparkle full of life, wonder, and joy.

Incredible measure of pride
Incredible measure of pride: I don't write about Ellie very much, but the truth is, I have an incredible measure of pride for this little girl. She brightens my life with a simple smile and a hug. She is wise beyond her years and her heart has more love and compassion than most people I know. She is amazing, absolutely amazing. We sit together and talk, laugh, and craft away. She has the ability to speak truth into my life, and she loves me regardless of my flaws as a mom. What a gift she is in my life.

So full of love
So full of love: These two girls have a sibling relationship like no other I have seen. Ellie's love for Nichole is so strong. There is no disability, there is no down side to having a sister with down syndrome, there is only love, and an abundance of it. I wrote a post about their relationship, you can read about that by clicking here.


Stand tall
Stand tall: To the eye this appears to be a little girl standing, no big deal at all. But this is a little girl with Cerebral Palsy that is beginning to stand, balance, and walk. Feet with heels on the ground, balancing to her best. A once orphan little girl that would have been sentences to life in a crib in a mental institution now has the sky as her limit. She is full of potential, and she is standing tall!

I'll make music

I'll make music: Nichole amazes me. Often times, she reminds us that we can make music, sing along, and enjoy life. She is also so full of potential, and I love to see her showing me through play what her future could look like. For all those times where I ask myself "Will She...?" Her answer is, "let me show you mom." You can also click here for a post I wrote about this.

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Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Guess what day it is today?

4 What are your thoughts?
It is World Down syndrome day!
To celebrate, Nichole actually posed for a picture.

It was a busy, fun, and exciting morning. Let me tell you a little bit about what Nichole and I were up to today. Especially since, you know, she is the reason why we celebrate this day.

Nichole, my friend Robin and I went to Nichole's school to talk to all the kids K-5 about Down syndrome. There are about 300 students, so I wasn't sure how it would work to talk to such large groups (3-5 graders first, then K-2) The kids were amazing!

We talked a little bit about Down syndrome, and how the extra chromosomes makes the information in our body get a little bit confused so it results in some things being a little bit harder for kids with Down syndrome. In order to explain some of the challenges better, I invited some volunteers to come up front.

We put a large marshmallow in our mouth and we tried to answer some questions. It was hard!
We put socks on our hands and tried to pick up beans, one at a time, and put them in a bowl. It was hard!
With the socks still on, we had to pick up a card from a deck of cards and flip them over. It was hard!
Finally, we did some jumping jacks, but then we held weights on our hands and tried to do jumping jacks again. It was a lot harder with the weights!

You can click here and see where I got these wonderful ideas!

Although there are some differences, we then talked about all the things we love and like to do. Kids with Down syndrome love and like the same things kids their age like to do. We realized then that we are more alike than different!

To finish our time, we watched a short video called: My Friend Isabelle. It was originally a book and was adapted to be presented to larger groups of kids. You can click here and watch the video.

I made a display for the school so that kids can stop by and look at all the things that kids with Down syndrome can do and like to do. All the kids thought it was great! 


All kids will take a letter home to show their parents. This is what it says:

Dear  Parents:

Today I had the privilege to come to (Our Elementary School) and talk to your child about Down syndrome. March 21st is World Down syndrome day (3/21) because people with Down syndrome have 3 copies of the 21st chromosome.

What did we do?

We watched a short video about Charlie and his good friend Isabelle. Isabelle has Down syndrome. We then got to do some fun activities involving weights, socks, and marshmallows so that we could better understand what are some of the challenges that people with Down syndrome have. Finally, we talked about all the ways in which people with Down syndrome are more alike us than they are different. 

But what was most exciting, is that they got to meet Nichole, my daughter.

Nichole is 4 years old and she attends the EC program at school. She loves princesses, Barbies, Strawberry Shortcake and Curious George. She loves to play pretend and dress-up. She is also a little performer, and likes to make people laugh. Sometimes, when other people are sad, she gives hugs and pats their backs to make them feel better. She adores her big sisters (they are in Kindergarten). 

Nichole’s favorite snacks are Doritos and M&Ms. She is a dancer, a trampoline jumper, and a rascal. Although she has some trouble with her words, Nichole is more alike other 4-year-old little girls than she is different.

Although it was hard to deal with Nichole’s diagnosis at the beginning, there is nothing about her that our family would change. She has brought more joy to our lives than we ever imagined. She is absolutely perfect!

I hope your child shares with you what they learned today about Down syndrome. If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to contact me. I always love to talk to other parents about Down syndrome and other special needs.

On the back of this page, you will find some quick facts about Down syndrome.
Sincerely,
Ellen Stumbo
Facts taken from the National Down Syndrome Society
• Down syndrome occurs when some or all of a person’s cells have an extra full or partial copy of chromosome 21. This additional genetic material alters the course of development and causes the characteristics associated with Down syndrome.
    
• Down syndrome is the most commonly occurring chromosomal condition. One in every 691 babies in the United States is born with Down syndrome. About 6,000 babies are born with Down syndrome every year.
    
• There are more than 400,000 people living with Down syndrome in the United States.
     
• Down syndrome occurs in people of all races and economic levels.
     
• The incidence of births of children with Down syndrome increases with the age of the mother. But due to higher fertility rates in younger women, 80% of children with Down syndrome are born to women under 35 years of age.
      
• People with Down syndrome have an increased risk for certain medical conditions such as congenital heart defects, respiratory and hearing problems, Alzheimer's disease, childhood leukemia, and thyroid conditions. Many of these conditions are now treatable, so most people with Down syndrome lead healthy lives.
     
• A few of the common physical traits of Down syndrome are low muscle tone, small stature, an upward slant to the eyes, and a single deep crease across the center of the palm. Every person with Down syndrome is a unique individual and may possess these characteristics to different degrees or not at all.
    
• Life expectancy for people with Down syndrome has increased dramatically in recent decades - from 25 in 1983 to 60 today.
     
• People with Down syndrome attend school, work, participate in decisions that affect them, and contribute to society in many wonderful ways.

Most people with Down syndrome have cognitive delays that are mild to moderate. Children with Down syndrome fully participate in public and private educational programs. Educators and researchers are still discovering the full educational potential of people with Down syndrome.
    
• Quality educational programs, a stimulating home environment, good health care, and positive support from family, friends and the community enable people with Down syndrome to develop their full potential and lead fulfilling lives.

People with Down syndrome have feelings just like everyone else in the population. They experience the full range of emotions. They respond to positive expressions of friendship and they are hurt and upset by inconsiderate behavior.

People with Down syndrome have meaningful friendships, date, socialize, form ongoing relationships and marry.

***Also, for Down Syndrome Day I have a guest post on "Different Dream for my child" site. Click here and check out my post where I highlight the beautiful relationship between my daughters and how Down syndrome affects siblings.***


 Last, I want to share with you the letter I wrote to Nichole last year on this day.


Dear Nichole,

When you came into my life, your diagnosis of Down syndrome threatened to crush my heart. That tiny extra 21st chromosome seemed too powerful for me to stand up against. I cried constantly, and I feared our lives would be covered with limitations. I wanted to wake up and find that you were a "normal" baby, that Down syndrome was only a part of a bad dream. But it wasn't a dream. You almond shaped eyes looked straight at me. Then one day, I thought you were looking not just at me, but straight into me.

I don't know how to describe this to you, so I will do the best I can. It was as if I had been dreaming for most of my life, and then you came in and you woke me up. Love, joy, and peace became almost tangible. I felt as if my eyes had been opened to the real things that matter in this world. Maybe I simply had a "weak heart" and then you showed up ready to fix it.

Not only did you awaken something inside of me; you changed me. God, using you, a little baby girl with Down syndrome, to touch the places of my life that needed to allow Him in.

I look at you now, and  Down syndrome, although it does not define you, is something in you that I cherish. It is something that I celebrate. I would not change a thing about you. Every single chromosome you have is absolutely perfect! You are exactly how God intended you to be, He created your inmost being.

Today is World Down syndrome day. Thanks to you, I realize the significance of this day because I know that Down syndrome is something to be celebrated, something that we could all use a little bit more of. I wish I loved more like you, and that I gave my hugs as freely as you do. I wish I celebrated others with the same excitement you show. I am blessed to have you my sweet girl.

Happy day to you my little rascal, and thank you for making ours happy because you are you!

 I love you my little rascal Nichole. I love you more than you will ever know!

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